The emotions that you're feeling in the wake of your breakup are perfectly normal. The doubt and despair as well as the confusion and sadness over your loss strike your heart like an arrow. Trying to sort out what your ex might be feeling can leave you perplexed and grasping at straws as you attempt to decipher what your ex says and what they do. Does your ex still love you or was it all a dream?
Wresting with your emotions and gauging what your ex might do next can be a futile effort. Attempting to read into their actions and words as you grasp for a sliver of hope that your relationship is not beyond repair can be difficult. You want to know if your ex misses you and if they feel any sort of love for you right now. There is a very good chance that your ex is every bit as confused as you are right now, as well. Their emotions might run from hating you one moment to missing you the next. To be sure of what is going on with your ex, here are some tips that should tell you how your ex is feeling about you these days.
First, have you heard from family or friends that your ex has been in touch? Has your ex reached out to people that you know in an attempt to find out how you're doing or if you still have feelings for them? This is almost a sure sign that your ex is still in love with you. Connecting with mutual friends or talking with your family is a subtle way for your ex to connect with you without actually talking with you.
The temptation to either become angry with your friends and family for talking with your ex might be your initial reaction. Instead of lashing out at them, recognize this communication between your ex and the people around you as a feeble attempt to get information about you. It might be best if you keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself at this point. Dragging your close friends into your relationship right now isn't a good idea. Let your ex become frustrated when they can't get any real information out of these resources and make your ex contact you directly instead. Using a third party to help you get your ex back isn't a good idea, no matter how clever you might think it is.
Perhaps your ex has actually tried to contact you directly. Maybe they called you or sent you a text message asking how you were or offering to give you some of the things that they still have from when you were together. This is another very good sign that your ex still has feelings for you or that they miss you. It's only natural that your ex is going to miss you. When that loss becomes overwhelming they will attempt to ease that pain by contacting you so they can hear your voice and feel that connection again. All of this is a very good sign that your ex still loves you.
Before you go running around the house dancing for joy, understand that you still need to be cool and calm. You need to hide your emotions and avoid talking about the breakup, how sorry you are, how you want to get back together or anything negative having to do with what happened in the past. Your ex probably already knows that you want to get back together. All of this might be a way for your ex to start that process of reuniting with you. Any talk about getting back together will scare them off, though. Getting back together is all about connecting and falling in love again. Keep your cool and avoid talking about it. Just let it happen.
The next place that you are probably looking for clues that will tell you what your ex feels for you is social networking websites. There's a good chance that both of you are looking at each others profiles and spying on each other. This might not be the best idea but it happens. If you notice that your ex is posting a lot of photos that show how happy they are or status messages about what they're doing then you can be sure that these messages are for you. Does it look like your ex is trying just a little bit too hard to convince the world that they're happy? If so then there's a good chance that they're missing you a lot.
Checking on your ex through social networking sites is probably one of the most dangerous things you can do. The emotional torment and wasted time looking at updates and trying to read into everything can confuse your mind. It's easy to create some very bad scenarios inside your mind and it is very much a one sided conversation at this point. Try not to read into things too much. If your ex is posting photos of them with new people or even someone that they just started dating then you can be almost positive that they're trying to make you jealous or make it appear that they have moved on. This will often backfire on them. Not wanting to show that they are in emotional pain will cause them to hide their grief until they finally break down one day. It will happen. Just be sure you are prepared for that day.
If you notice any of these signs that your ex misses you and is still in love with you, keep this information to yourself. Be happy about it but be patient. Don't try to reach out to your ex or confront them with this knowledge. Remain hopeful and work on getting your life and self-esteem back before you attempt to bring up the subject of getting back together. Let your ex fall in love with you all over again. There will come a breaking point and there's a very good chance that your ex is close to reaching that point. Be ready to catch them when they fall and understand that pushing your ex or trying to convince them to come back to you simply isn't going to work.
Wresting with your emotions and gauging what your ex might do next can be a futile effort. Attempting to read into their actions and words as you grasp for a sliver of hope that your relationship is not beyond repair can be difficult. You want to know if your ex misses you and if they feel any sort of love for you right now. There is a very good chance that your ex is every bit as confused as you are right now, as well. Their emotions might run from hating you one moment to missing you the next. To be sure of what is going on with your ex, here are some tips that should tell you how your ex is feeling about you these days.
First, have you heard from family or friends that your ex has been in touch? Has your ex reached out to people that you know in an attempt to find out how you're doing or if you still have feelings for them? This is almost a sure sign that your ex is still in love with you. Connecting with mutual friends or talking with your family is a subtle way for your ex to connect with you without actually talking with you.
The temptation to either become angry with your friends and family for talking with your ex might be your initial reaction. Instead of lashing out at them, recognize this communication between your ex and the people around you as a feeble attempt to get information about you. It might be best if you keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself at this point. Dragging your close friends into your relationship right now isn't a good idea. Let your ex become frustrated when they can't get any real information out of these resources and make your ex contact you directly instead. Using a third party to help you get your ex back isn't a good idea, no matter how clever you might think it is.
Perhaps your ex has actually tried to contact you directly. Maybe they called you or sent you a text message asking how you were or offering to give you some of the things that they still have from when you were together. This is another very good sign that your ex still has feelings for you or that they miss you. It's only natural that your ex is going to miss you. When that loss becomes overwhelming they will attempt to ease that pain by contacting you so they can hear your voice and feel that connection again. All of this is a very good sign that your ex still loves you.
Before you go running around the house dancing for joy, understand that you still need to be cool and calm. You need to hide your emotions and avoid talking about the breakup, how sorry you are, how you want to get back together or anything negative having to do with what happened in the past. Your ex probably already knows that you want to get back together. All of this might be a way for your ex to start that process of reuniting with you. Any talk about getting back together will scare them off, though. Getting back together is all about connecting and falling in love again. Keep your cool and avoid talking about it. Just let it happen.
The next place that you are probably looking for clues that will tell you what your ex feels for you is social networking websites. There's a good chance that both of you are looking at each others profiles and spying on each other. This might not be the best idea but it happens. If you notice that your ex is posting a lot of photos that show how happy they are or status messages about what they're doing then you can be sure that these messages are for you. Does it look like your ex is trying just a little bit too hard to convince the world that they're happy? If so then there's a good chance that they're missing you a lot.
Checking on your ex through social networking sites is probably one of the most dangerous things you can do. The emotional torment and wasted time looking at updates and trying to read into everything can confuse your mind. It's easy to create some very bad scenarios inside your mind and it is very much a one sided conversation at this point. Try not to read into things too much. If your ex is posting photos of them with new people or even someone that they just started dating then you can be almost positive that they're trying to make you jealous or make it appear that they have moved on. This will often backfire on them. Not wanting to show that they are in emotional pain will cause them to hide their grief until they finally break down one day. It will happen. Just be sure you are prepared for that day.
If you notice any of these signs that your ex misses you and is still in love with you, keep this information to yourself. Be happy about it but be patient. Don't try to reach out to your ex or confront them with this knowledge. Remain hopeful and work on getting your life and self-esteem back before you attempt to bring up the subject of getting back together. Let your ex fall in love with you all over again. There will come a breaking point and there's a very good chance that your ex is close to reaching that point. Be ready to catch them when they fall and understand that pushing your ex or trying to convince them to come back to you simply isn't going to work.
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