Somebody once perfectly said it...something like...if your value is determined by peoples compliments, then you will be demolished by their deep criticisms.
I really did not completely understand this quote until recently. But now, I actually get it.
I suspect this is the 1st time in a while that I've been told about someone in particular saying bad things about me behind my back. For a second, it rocked me. For the minutes to hours after, it fueled me. I put those comments in a special place inside me that I will go to every day when I need them. The honest reality is, incentive is many things for people. Ideally you would want to set an exceedingly positive goal for yourself and aim towards achieving that goal. However , the fuel we must employ may not always be clean.
Often, it's going to burn black.
I always talk of the balance of life...light and dark...especially deep within the soul, and I believe that we will be able to find things within ourselves that will fuel our actions even if the fuel itself isn't pure. I am of course talking about the times people expounded something hurtful, horrible, rude or just hurtful in all. For some, those things can completely ruin their ambitions. To be honest and truthful, that really did happen many times with me. I did not have the belief in myself yet to "do it" regardless of what anybody said.
These things that other people say, in the end, truly aren't even actually about you. I know cause I have been on the other side. I recollect a point when I could not say very nice things because I detested myself. I detested that they were doing it and I couldn't. I loathed everything about that person because they could make the sacrifices...they had the willpower...they were actually...doing what I had always dreamed about daily.
You can spend your life blaming other people and attempting to bring other people down because you have a rubbish life or you can focus upon loving yourself and others, something you do really need so as to be a positive individual and encourage other people and their dreams. In the end, spewing hate only tears you apart. Karma returns around in some way or other and takes care of its business. Been there too.
You are either for people or against them.
Be for other people. Be for their dreams...that makes you a warm person deep inside. Be for relationships. That cold heart you are harboring is only going to freeze harder and finally split into lots of pieces. Hate, hurt, and envy will cut you in half and you will spend several years battling between the loving side and the hateful side. Once again, been there. No matter what you do, others are going to not like you for whatever reason. They'll be rubbed the wrong way, they will not like your hair, your eyes, your nose, your voice, your image...they will find a way. Don't sweat it. You are on the correct track. Because no one has ever talked trash about someone who failed to mean something to them in one way or another.
Remember that. Not everyone is going to enjoy peaches.
So you have to actually matter to them. So much, in fact, they have been taking time out of their day to discuss you. What an accolade.
So cheers...haters...I tip my cap to you. I must be headed in the correct direction.
I really did not completely understand this quote until recently. But now, I actually get it.
I suspect this is the 1st time in a while that I've been told about someone in particular saying bad things about me behind my back. For a second, it rocked me. For the minutes to hours after, it fueled me. I put those comments in a special place inside me that I will go to every day when I need them. The honest reality is, incentive is many things for people. Ideally you would want to set an exceedingly positive goal for yourself and aim towards achieving that goal. However , the fuel we must employ may not always be clean.
Often, it's going to burn black.
I always talk of the balance of life...light and dark...especially deep within the soul, and I believe that we will be able to find things within ourselves that will fuel our actions even if the fuel itself isn't pure. I am of course talking about the times people expounded something hurtful, horrible, rude or just hurtful in all. For some, those things can completely ruin their ambitions. To be honest and truthful, that really did happen many times with me. I did not have the belief in myself yet to "do it" regardless of what anybody said.
These things that other people say, in the end, truly aren't even actually about you. I know cause I have been on the other side. I recollect a point when I could not say very nice things because I detested myself. I detested that they were doing it and I couldn't. I loathed everything about that person because they could make the sacrifices...they had the willpower...they were actually...doing what I had always dreamed about daily.
You can spend your life blaming other people and attempting to bring other people down because you have a rubbish life or you can focus upon loving yourself and others, something you do really need so as to be a positive individual and encourage other people and their dreams. In the end, spewing hate only tears you apart. Karma returns around in some way or other and takes care of its business. Been there too.
You are either for people or against them.
Be for other people. Be for their dreams...that makes you a warm person deep inside. Be for relationships. That cold heart you are harboring is only going to freeze harder and finally split into lots of pieces. Hate, hurt, and envy will cut you in half and you will spend several years battling between the loving side and the hateful side. Once again, been there. No matter what you do, others are going to not like you for whatever reason. They'll be rubbed the wrong way, they will not like your hair, your eyes, your nose, your voice, your image...they will find a way. Don't sweat it. You are on the correct track. Because no one has ever talked trash about someone who failed to mean something to them in one way or another.
Remember that. Not everyone is going to enjoy peaches.
So you have to actually matter to them. So much, in fact, they have been taking time out of their day to discuss you. What an accolade.
So cheers...haters...I tip my cap to you. I must be headed in the correct direction.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need to move on? A lover talking behind your back? Try out these ex boyfriend quotes.
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