Due to a lack of energy from the brutal Winter months, for the initial couple of weeks of Spring, I was uncharacteristically slacking on the upkeep of my looks. I figured that I looked good enough to suffice for my romantic goals. I was acquiring tail and I still looked much better compared to most of my competitors. What could go wrong?
The quantity of ladies I brought back was normal, however, the quality of lady I was taking back was a bit lower than my average. The quantity of initiative I needed to exert was likewise above normal. This drop in efficiency was not exceptionally severe, but noticeably so. Lately, I've redoubled my efforts to look fresh every time I march on the town and the change has actually been equally noticeable. I've been acquiring more eye bangs with more girls and they are much more receptive when I make my move.
Once more, these adjustments to my results weren't planet smashing, however they were very recognizable. I presumed it was merely another application of the "be attractive" adage, but a peculiar theory occurred to me as I was doing some girl spotting with a few buds in the posh Omotesando area.
We were trading notes on the best ways to determine who the sexually generous girls are based on appearance alone. Jingly bracelets and earrings is good sign. T-shirt underneath a camisole implies don't bother. Tanning at the coast in a bikini means she's comfortable being naked. Floppy hat and long sleeves means you're looking at a premature old lady. Odd style plus no war paint means Chinese, which amounts to garlic breath and attitude.
One member of our group that day was a Unite States Air Force officer and Japan newbie whose only input into the discussion was, "Damn, anything in a short skirt looks like slam piece to me." Our level of detail was clearly lost on him.
The military man's lack of nuance made me realize something: Japanese girls have a similarly nuanced sorting system for high/low value Japanese guys, and a similarly unrefined one for foreigners. It is a natural result of a whole life spent observing and interacting with Japanese guys. By the time they leave college, their J-dude sorting ability has become some well practiced that it's largely subconscious.
It bears repeating that the ability to sort Japanese men according to their desirability is not an active process. It occurs on the subconscious level, much like a flinch. Soccer players, after practicing for years on end, no longer have to actively think about the process of dribbling; it just happens as they move.
If you look anything like a Japanese bachelor, you need to look your best to avoid getting caught in Japanese girls' sexual filters. Other foreigners have significantly more slack since the specifics of their looks and behavior will not be as readily identified. But, from personal observation, the magnitude of this effect is will not overcome any major deficiencies in fashion, fitness, or grooming. Obvious foreigners still need to be presentable; the days where any old nerd could fly over to Japan and get laid like tile are mostly over.
One last point to keep in mind is that this automatic sorting works both ways. If you landed on the gorgeous side of it, you could have a great deal of success a lot easier and with more ladies than your round-eyed equal. If you do not, you're dealing with an uphill battle to the land of squeaky noises and unshaven pubic hair.
In a nutshell, if you're an Asian bachelor looking for a good time in Tokyo, you'd best come correct.
The quantity of ladies I brought back was normal, however, the quality of lady I was taking back was a bit lower than my average. The quantity of initiative I needed to exert was likewise above normal. This drop in efficiency was not exceptionally severe, but noticeably so. Lately, I've redoubled my efforts to look fresh every time I march on the town and the change has actually been equally noticeable. I've been acquiring more eye bangs with more girls and they are much more receptive when I make my move.
Once more, these adjustments to my results weren't planet smashing, however they were very recognizable. I presumed it was merely another application of the "be attractive" adage, but a peculiar theory occurred to me as I was doing some girl spotting with a few buds in the posh Omotesando area.
We were trading notes on the best ways to determine who the sexually generous girls are based on appearance alone. Jingly bracelets and earrings is good sign. T-shirt underneath a camisole implies don't bother. Tanning at the coast in a bikini means she's comfortable being naked. Floppy hat and long sleeves means you're looking at a premature old lady. Odd style plus no war paint means Chinese, which amounts to garlic breath and attitude.
One member of our group that day was a Unite States Air Force officer and Japan newbie whose only input into the discussion was, "Damn, anything in a short skirt looks like slam piece to me." Our level of detail was clearly lost on him.
The military man's lack of nuance made me realize something: Japanese girls have a similarly nuanced sorting system for high/low value Japanese guys, and a similarly unrefined one for foreigners. It is a natural result of a whole life spent observing and interacting with Japanese guys. By the time they leave college, their J-dude sorting ability has become some well practiced that it's largely subconscious.
It bears repeating that the ability to sort Japanese men according to their desirability is not an active process. It occurs on the subconscious level, much like a flinch. Soccer players, after practicing for years on end, no longer have to actively think about the process of dribbling; it just happens as they move.
If you look anything like a Japanese bachelor, you need to look your best to avoid getting caught in Japanese girls' sexual filters. Other foreigners have significantly more slack since the specifics of their looks and behavior will not be as readily identified. But, from personal observation, the magnitude of this effect is will not overcome any major deficiencies in fashion, fitness, or grooming. Obvious foreigners still need to be presentable; the days where any old nerd could fly over to Japan and get laid like tile are mostly over.
One last point to keep in mind is that this automatic sorting works both ways. If you landed on the gorgeous side of it, you could have a great deal of success a lot easier and with more ladies than your round-eyed equal. If you do not, you're dealing with an uphill battle to the land of squeaky noises and unshaven pubic hair.
In a nutshell, if you're an Asian bachelor looking for a good time in Tokyo, you'd best come correct.
About the Author:
Japanese girls can be a mystery. They certainly were to me, and I'm Japanese-American. Fortunately, I figured out how to lead a life of romantic abundance in the land of the rising sun. Learn everything I wish I'd known about meeting Japanese girls back when I was a college graduate on my blog: redsunblue.com
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