There are these moments during particular days where I need to be astonishingly truthful with myself about what I happen to be going through and feeling. I know when it is about to occur because I get this wave of chills from the top of my neck down to my lower back and I feel my mood begin to change. I used to be afraid of it...the feeling of water almost dripping down my back. But in time I have learned the simple way to sit with it.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling to the surface.
Often we are going through life not fully grasping that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have totally recovered or have moved on, but in truth there are still pieces to the puzzle that need to be put together. Perhaps Maybe it is just one piece left, perhaps it is simply this moment where you need to sit down and get quiet for one last time, or maybe it demands more of your attention.
There's a fascinating balance between moving forward and making the effort, whatever the situation may be, and starting to understand what is occurring within. I believe much of the time when a person is hurt and other people recognise it they try and tell that person to pick themselves up as quickly as possible and forget the past. This guidance, while meant to be useful, isn't actually pragmatic - because the same person who gave that guidance, in the same scenario, couldn't possibly take it.
The best advice you can truly give is to truly not to forget as fast as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring within. To let it all flow through you. The sole way you can actually understand what something really means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result of things.
Have a truth filled moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They're life's way of balancing you out. When you attempt to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrid place. Let life do what it has to do in order to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then go on. Don't try to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to chat with you. Open yourself to emotions and feelings and let them speak reason into your heart.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling to the surface.
Often we are going through life not fully grasping that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have totally recovered or have moved on, but in truth there are still pieces to the puzzle that need to be put together. Perhaps Maybe it is just one piece left, perhaps it is simply this moment where you need to sit down and get quiet for one last time, or maybe it demands more of your attention.
There's a fascinating balance between moving forward and making the effort, whatever the situation may be, and starting to understand what is occurring within. I believe much of the time when a person is hurt and other people recognise it they try and tell that person to pick themselves up as quickly as possible and forget the past. This guidance, while meant to be useful, isn't actually pragmatic - because the same person who gave that guidance, in the same scenario, couldn't possibly take it.
The best advice you can truly give is to truly not to forget as fast as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring within. To let it all flow through you. The sole way you can actually understand what something really means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result of things.
Have a truth filled moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They're life's way of balancing you out. When you attempt to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrid place. Let life do what it has to do in order to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then go on. Don't try to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to chat with you. Open yourself to emotions and feelings and let them speak reason into your heart.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move forward with your life and recover from a relationship? Try these ex boyfriend quotes out.
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