"Before I built a wall I'd ask to know, what I was walling in or walling out?" - Robert Frost
I ask people a lot about building walls and what they are good for and I always get the same answer. "They are good for keeping things out."
That is certainly true. And then I ask, "What else are they good at doing?" You wouldn't believe the dead silence that usually comes back my way.
"Uhmmm. I really have no idea." Don't worry I'll give you the answer. Walls are great for keeping things out but they also keep things "in."
And this is where the trouble is. This is where we get into a TON of trouble. You see, we build walls for many reasons: fear, doubt, anxiety and think that they will protect us from pain. Every single time something painful happens in our lives we continue to build higher and higher walls so they they almost become indestructible.
And unfortunately, when you are trying to keep out the negative, you are also keeping in the positive. Remember those gifts you've been given? They never get to come out to play. They stay trapped inside because you have created a bit of a prison for yourself.
It gets worse. Since you didn't build any doors...because why would you ever want to give the negative emotions a weak spot in the wall to exploit, you've failed to create any form of fire escape.
As life always likes to do, it shoots fiery arrows over your walls and starts to light everything on fire. You have no escape. You have no "out." Typically, peoples lives burn straight to the ground.
Walls are bad for you. They can truly hurt you.
When you shut yourself off from experiencing life, you aren't really thriving you're just surviving. You are trying to string it together day by day and time passes you by. You never really get out there into the world and live it.
The walls you build that you think are protecting you are actually hurting you. You can't grow from that comfort zone. You can't shape and morph into someone who is taking their life to the next level. Everything that is meant to come out from you stays trapped in.
They will never come out when you are living safe inside of your comfort zone.
That's just the reality. You have to tear down the walls that you think are protecting you and be willing to experience the open fields where everything and anything is possible.
Yes, it will be scary. But when you make the decision to step into vulnerability you will remember it for the rest of your life.
Tear down the walls. Take a risk.
I ask people a lot about building walls and what they are good for and I always get the same answer. "They are good for keeping things out."
That is certainly true. And then I ask, "What else are they good at doing?" You wouldn't believe the dead silence that usually comes back my way.
"Uhmmm. I really have no idea." Don't worry I'll give you the answer. Walls are great for keeping things out but they also keep things "in."
And this is where the trouble is. This is where we get into a TON of trouble. You see, we build walls for many reasons: fear, doubt, anxiety and think that they will protect us from pain. Every single time something painful happens in our lives we continue to build higher and higher walls so they they almost become indestructible.
And unfortunately, when you are trying to keep out the negative, you are also keeping in the positive. Remember those gifts you've been given? They never get to come out to play. They stay trapped inside because you have created a bit of a prison for yourself.
It gets worse. Since you didn't build any doors...because why would you ever want to give the negative emotions a weak spot in the wall to exploit, you've failed to create any form of fire escape.
As life always likes to do, it shoots fiery arrows over your walls and starts to light everything on fire. You have no escape. You have no "out." Typically, peoples lives burn straight to the ground.
Walls are bad for you. They can truly hurt you.
When you shut yourself off from experiencing life, you aren't really thriving you're just surviving. You are trying to string it together day by day and time passes you by. You never really get out there into the world and live it.
The walls you build that you think are protecting you are actually hurting you. You can't grow from that comfort zone. You can't shape and morph into someone who is taking their life to the next level. Everything that is meant to come out from you stays trapped in.
They will never come out when you are living safe inside of your comfort zone.
That's just the reality. You have to tear down the walls that you think are protecting you and be willing to experience the open fields where everything and anything is possible.
Yes, it will be scary. But when you make the decision to step into vulnerability you will remember it for the rest of your life.
Tear down the walls. Take a risk.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Great Quotes On Happiness or these Quotes On Having Patience to get some motivation to move forward!
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