The news that your girlfriend is seeing another guy can hit you like a ton of bricks. Even if you had your suspicions, knowing that the woman you love is involved with someone else can be devastating. Now you wonder if you should even try to get back together with her. You love her but this guy is more handsome than you. Maybe he is more wealthy than you or he is guy that all the girls are chasing. No matter how awesome he might be, you need to know that none of this is important and it shouldn't deter you from trying to win back the woman you love.
It's a common misconception that women are attracted to the most handsome or wealthy men. Most guys think that a girl judges a guy by the clothes he wears, how expensive his watch is or how big his muscles are but for a woman, lasting love is built on something just a little bit different. A woman falls in love with a guy because of how he makes her feel. The guy that can make a woman feel those intense romantic feelings is the man that will win in the end every time. The man that can be himself and build an intense romantic connection with a woman will win out over a guy with all the other things in life going for him.
In the wake of your breakup there's a very good chance that you haven't been acting normal. You could feel her slipping away from you before the breakup. You did everything that you could to save the relationship. After the breakup, you became frantic to possess her and bring her back. As a result, you haven't been acting like yourself. You became so focused on your girlfriend and making her love you that you became needy. You desperately wanted her to love you. You needed her to love you. A woman can sense these emotions and feelings and they are very unattractive, to say the least.
While you were doing everything in your power to make your girlfriend love you, this other guy was her refuge. While you were basically pushing her away with your behavior, the other man was there by her side listening to her and agreeing with whatever she had to say. It was easy for him. He probably didn't have to try at all to win her over. He became her best friend, her confidante and the one that she felt understood her better than anyone else in the world. He created a connection with her.
Now it's your turn to create or recreate that connection with the woman you love. You did it before and probably quite easily. She fell in love with you and she probably told you at one point that she felt a strong connection with you. This is the only way to get her back. You need her to see for herself that you are the one that truly cares about her. She needs to make this decision on her own. There will come a time when she will reach out to you and test to see if that connection is still there. She will remember how things were and she will wonder if you still care enough to make her feel those wonderful feelings that she had when things were good between the two of you. Will you be ready?
Before you can win her over and prove to her that you're the man that she needs in her life, you have to pull yourself together. This means no more needy behavior. There will be no more trying to win her over. You need to let this happen naturally. Get yourself back. You are the guy that she fell in love with. Find that happy guy that she loved to talk to and help him to get his life back together. Look at things from her point of view and love her selflessly. Be ready to be there for her and to recreate that connection as if that other guy never existed. You have the upper hand because you love her and you understand her better than anyone in the world.
It's a common misconception that women are attracted to the most handsome or wealthy men. Most guys think that a girl judges a guy by the clothes he wears, how expensive his watch is or how big his muscles are but for a woman, lasting love is built on something just a little bit different. A woman falls in love with a guy because of how he makes her feel. The guy that can make a woman feel those intense romantic feelings is the man that will win in the end every time. The man that can be himself and build an intense romantic connection with a woman will win out over a guy with all the other things in life going for him.
In the wake of your breakup there's a very good chance that you haven't been acting normal. You could feel her slipping away from you before the breakup. You did everything that you could to save the relationship. After the breakup, you became frantic to possess her and bring her back. As a result, you haven't been acting like yourself. You became so focused on your girlfriend and making her love you that you became needy. You desperately wanted her to love you. You needed her to love you. A woman can sense these emotions and feelings and they are very unattractive, to say the least.
While you were doing everything in your power to make your girlfriend love you, this other guy was her refuge. While you were basically pushing her away with your behavior, the other man was there by her side listening to her and agreeing with whatever she had to say. It was easy for him. He probably didn't have to try at all to win her over. He became her best friend, her confidante and the one that she felt understood her better than anyone else in the world. He created a connection with her.
Now it's your turn to create or recreate that connection with the woman you love. You did it before and probably quite easily. She fell in love with you and she probably told you at one point that she felt a strong connection with you. This is the only way to get her back. You need her to see for herself that you are the one that truly cares about her. She needs to make this decision on her own. There will come a time when she will reach out to you and test to see if that connection is still there. She will remember how things were and she will wonder if you still care enough to make her feel those wonderful feelings that she had when things were good between the two of you. Will you be ready?
Before you can win her over and prove to her that you're the man that she needs in her life, you have to pull yourself together. This means no more needy behavior. There will be no more trying to win her over. You need to let this happen naturally. Get yourself back. You are the guy that she fell in love with. Find that happy guy that she loved to talk to and help him to get his life back together. Look at things from her point of view and love her selflessly. Be ready to be there for her and to recreate that connection as if that other guy never existed. You have the upper hand because you love her and you understand her better than anyone in the world.
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Learn more about female psychology from Matt Huston. Discover why your girlfriend might need you to take the lead in your relationship.
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