Do You Need Relationship Help For Your Marriage?

By Reynaldo Fuentes


Few marriages are perfect and have never needed any form of help to maintain. Marriages that don't have good relationships are likely the ones that won't last. If they do last, the couple aren't usually happy and they are more likely to fail.

The difference between a marriage and a relationship is that when people marry, they form a bond in matrimony and in the eyes of the law and man they are united until death (or divorce) do they part.

A relationship on the other hand, is a meaningful sense of well being formed after the marriage takes place that will grow and deepen as long as the two parties maintain their union. In many cases, the relationship actually begins prior to the marriage.

It isn't hard to tell when you need relationship help for your marriage. However, other people might notice this well before you do. Some of the warning signs include going alone to functions and then offer an excuse for why your spouse is not in attendance.

If you're a couple, the more you're out without one another, the more likely your relationship needs help. When you are together you likely don't do a lot of talking, you may simply sit with one another but not really say anything or worse, you may pretend the other person is interesting all the while hoping the event is over soon.

More signs of a relationship in decline are lack of interest in the bedroom. While both of you may be young and attractive, the spark has gone out and one of you may even fantasize about others.

There is no more affection, no kisses, no hugs and no "I Love You" being said to each other. We're human folks, we all need these things. You have a serious problem and you need to fix this or move on.

Jealousy is a huge turn off to the other partner when carried to the extreme. The jealous person will withdraw and the other person will feel as if the one that is jealous is being unfaithful. The other partner will then hold back as they feel cheated upon. It's a vicious circle that is hard to break.

Make sure to not exaggerate the situation and establish some ground rules. If jealousy is a problem, you'll need to seek help. If intimacy is to be a part of the relationship, then jealousy must go.

Debt and money issues can cause relationship problems too. Not enough money to meet day-to-day needs is always cause for concern. But, if the couple is willing to work together and come up with a budget and live within their means, this will help to greatly release some of the tension.

Living within a budget can actually save a relationship. Too much debt can put a serious strain on the marriage. When either spouse constantly overspends and they are drowning in a sea of debt, then the marriage will also begin to sink.

Marriages suffer frequently when things like this occur. Conflicts and disagreements soon become the norm. It's good to stop and do inventory on occasion and see how things are really going between the two of you. Make the required adjustments and continue on in your life. You will see a huge difference and the relationship will become much stronger in the end.




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