Wanting to get back together with your ex girlfriend or your wife is a simple issue of mind over matter. You will find that your attitude has more to do with your success in your relationship with the woman of your dreams than anything else. While a woman might hear your words fine, she will judge you by your actions. You goal should be to show her with your actions that you are strong, fun to be around and the best man for her. You are confident and you need to instill a feeling of security in her when she is with you.
Most guys make the mistake of falling apart when their girlfriend or wife leaves them. Chances are that she was thinking about breaking up with you for some time before she had the courage to actually end the relationship. Perhaps you gave her a reason to leave. The reason probably wasn't what she told you it was. The reason that she left has more to do with a lack of respect for you as a man than anything she told you before she left you. It's your job now to show her that you're a man. This means no crying, begging or pleading for a second chance. This means that you can not tell her that you love her until she tells you that she loves you first. This means no contacting her or annoying her with requests to talk or see each other until you have your life straightened out and you are strong again.
In life, attitude is everything. This is especially true with women. It is often said that in order to make a woman fall in love with a man he must have an attitude that shows that he is willing to walk away. For instance, if your girlfriend or wife is accustomed to yelling at you or treating you poorly and you simply stand there and take it, changing your attitude and being willing to literally walk away from her will change her perception of you as a man. Literally turn away from her, tell her that you have no desire to listen to her anymore and walk away. You will probably be shocked when she comes after you and apologizes. Don't worry if she doesn't do this immediately. Be sure that her attitude towards you will change though. She will have a renewed respect for you and how she thinks of you will begin to change if you are willing to stand up for yourself.
Keeping your emotions in check is important. When was the last time you heard of a man that is highly respected crying or depressed over his broken heart? A real man takes the pain that life can sometimes dish out and turns that pain into a motivating factor in his life. From here on out, you are positive and optimistic about life. You have goals and dreams of what you want to do in life. You are filled with happiness and you ever look at your breakup as an opportunity to grow as a human being. When in the presence of your ex or anyone, for that matter, you are happy about life. If you are ever having a difficult time, control your emotions and tell yourself that you will process these emotions later when you're alone. If you continue to struggle, excuse yourself from the situation for a few minutes. Find a place where you can regain your composure and remind yourself that it is vitally important that you remain calm and positive in every situation. People are attracted to people who are strong and women, in particular, are attracted to men who are happy about life.
Regaining control in your relationship is very important. Many women will test you or attempt to control everything in the relationship. Was your ex this way when you were together? Does she still try to control things in your life by making suggestions or injecting her thoughts on all aspects of your life? This is why a woman will ask a man to make a decision about what restaurant they should go to and then get upset when he says that he doesn't care. She wants you to take control and make the decisions and she will lose respect for you when you give up that control. To remedy this situation, don't allow her to make decisions in your life. If she tries to decide where you will meet, make alternate plans simply to overturn her decision and take control of the situation. Don't worry if she becomes upset or angry. Taking control back from a woman can be frustrating for her but it is what she needs. She will rebel but her temper tantrum will pass quickly and eventually you will see that she respects you more and becomes more submissive to your suggestions. She will look to you for guidance and this is the path to getting back together with her.
Your self-confidence has probably taken a beating since she left but this doesn't mean that it is going to take months or years to rebuild your confidence. For you, as a man, your self-confidence is apparent in how you carry yourself. A man's self-confidence can be seen without words and it is shown in your posture, the kind of words you use and your body language, in general. Your facial expression shows that you are cheerful and without worry. You stand tall without slouching and you fear nothing. If you struggle with your confidence and self-esteem, work on it by telling yourself that you're strong. You can accomplish anything that you set your mind to. This includes getting the woman that you love back in your life. The next time you see your ex girlfriend or wife you want her to feel that there is something different about you. You want to exude confidence and an air that you don't have a trouble in the world. Even if she is evil towards you, it doesn't bother you. Even is she is with another man, it doesn't matter to you because you know that eventually she is going to fall for you and come crawling back to you with tears in her eyes.
No matter how difficult it has been having your girlfriend or wife leave you, it is possible to reunite with them rather quickly. You will be tempted to go back to how you were before. You'll be tempted at times to doubt that your new attitude will make a difference. You will worry that it's all going to backfire on you but if you are strong, change will come. How she feels about you will change. Men are not kind and caring toward women that treat them poorly. It's a sign of weakness. In the future, once you do get back together with her, you can treat her kindly but don't overdo it. You can love her and still be the man that she needs you to be. Pick and choose when you will take her advice but don't allow her to treat you poorly. Don't allow her to lose respect for you again. She needs you to be the man in the relationship. When you're not in control, she will look for someone that will protect her and care for her. It's up to you whether that man is you or some other guy that is either already in her life or waiting to take control of the situation. Let that man be you and get her back before it's too late.
Most guys make the mistake of falling apart when their girlfriend or wife leaves them. Chances are that she was thinking about breaking up with you for some time before she had the courage to actually end the relationship. Perhaps you gave her a reason to leave. The reason probably wasn't what she told you it was. The reason that she left has more to do with a lack of respect for you as a man than anything she told you before she left you. It's your job now to show her that you're a man. This means no crying, begging or pleading for a second chance. This means that you can not tell her that you love her until she tells you that she loves you first. This means no contacting her or annoying her with requests to talk or see each other until you have your life straightened out and you are strong again.
In life, attitude is everything. This is especially true with women. It is often said that in order to make a woman fall in love with a man he must have an attitude that shows that he is willing to walk away. For instance, if your girlfriend or wife is accustomed to yelling at you or treating you poorly and you simply stand there and take it, changing your attitude and being willing to literally walk away from her will change her perception of you as a man. Literally turn away from her, tell her that you have no desire to listen to her anymore and walk away. You will probably be shocked when she comes after you and apologizes. Don't worry if she doesn't do this immediately. Be sure that her attitude towards you will change though. She will have a renewed respect for you and how she thinks of you will begin to change if you are willing to stand up for yourself.
Keeping your emotions in check is important. When was the last time you heard of a man that is highly respected crying or depressed over his broken heart? A real man takes the pain that life can sometimes dish out and turns that pain into a motivating factor in his life. From here on out, you are positive and optimistic about life. You have goals and dreams of what you want to do in life. You are filled with happiness and you ever look at your breakup as an opportunity to grow as a human being. When in the presence of your ex or anyone, for that matter, you are happy about life. If you are ever having a difficult time, control your emotions and tell yourself that you will process these emotions later when you're alone. If you continue to struggle, excuse yourself from the situation for a few minutes. Find a place where you can regain your composure and remind yourself that it is vitally important that you remain calm and positive in every situation. People are attracted to people who are strong and women, in particular, are attracted to men who are happy about life.
Regaining control in your relationship is very important. Many women will test you or attempt to control everything in the relationship. Was your ex this way when you were together? Does she still try to control things in your life by making suggestions or injecting her thoughts on all aspects of your life? This is why a woman will ask a man to make a decision about what restaurant they should go to and then get upset when he says that he doesn't care. She wants you to take control and make the decisions and she will lose respect for you when you give up that control. To remedy this situation, don't allow her to make decisions in your life. If she tries to decide where you will meet, make alternate plans simply to overturn her decision and take control of the situation. Don't worry if she becomes upset or angry. Taking control back from a woman can be frustrating for her but it is what she needs. She will rebel but her temper tantrum will pass quickly and eventually you will see that she respects you more and becomes more submissive to your suggestions. She will look to you for guidance and this is the path to getting back together with her.
Your self-confidence has probably taken a beating since she left but this doesn't mean that it is going to take months or years to rebuild your confidence. For you, as a man, your self-confidence is apparent in how you carry yourself. A man's self-confidence can be seen without words and it is shown in your posture, the kind of words you use and your body language, in general. Your facial expression shows that you are cheerful and without worry. You stand tall without slouching and you fear nothing. If you struggle with your confidence and self-esteem, work on it by telling yourself that you're strong. You can accomplish anything that you set your mind to. This includes getting the woman that you love back in your life. The next time you see your ex girlfriend or wife you want her to feel that there is something different about you. You want to exude confidence and an air that you don't have a trouble in the world. Even if she is evil towards you, it doesn't bother you. Even is she is with another man, it doesn't matter to you because you know that eventually she is going to fall for you and come crawling back to you with tears in her eyes.
No matter how difficult it has been having your girlfriend or wife leave you, it is possible to reunite with them rather quickly. You will be tempted to go back to how you were before. You'll be tempted at times to doubt that your new attitude will make a difference. You will worry that it's all going to backfire on you but if you are strong, change will come. How she feels about you will change. Men are not kind and caring toward women that treat them poorly. It's a sign of weakness. In the future, once you do get back together with her, you can treat her kindly but don't overdo it. You can love her and still be the man that she needs you to be. Pick and choose when you will take her advice but don't allow her to treat you poorly. Don't allow her to lose respect for you again. She needs you to be the man in the relationship. When you're not in control, she will look for someone that will protect her and care for her. It's up to you whether that man is you or some other guy that is either already in her life or waiting to take control of the situation. Let that man be you and get her back before it's too late.
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