Often when one thinks of a wedding, all sorts of things come to
mind. There is all the planning that goes into the ceremony. There is
all the preparation, not to mention the cost, for the reception. There
is the fun of deciding on a honeymoon and making those arrangements. The
groom gets to go out with the guys while the bride and her friends play
wedding games and open up the sexy lingerie. Wrapped up in all these
arrangements is a great deal of stress.
You would think that once you get done with the ceremony, all the stress would evaporate. For the most part, it may be true in regard to months worth of plans coming to a successful and wonderful conclusion. Yet it is often replaces with another form of stress that sets in after the ceremony. This is the stress on sex on the wedding night.
You might wonder why would sex on the wedding night be so stressful. The answer can be summed up in one word: expectations. Both bride and groom have expectations of what intimacy with the other will be like and sex on the wedding night is supposed to be the fulfillment of those expectations. Yet that fulfillment isn't always what it is cracked up to be.
What the groom is looking for in terms of sex on the wedding night and what the bride is looking when it comes to sex on the wedding night are often two different things. So how do the bride and groom reconcile their individual expectations so that the expectations are fair and pleasurable for both of them? The answer lies in setting those expectations rather than letting expectations set you up for stress.
What factors should be considered when setting expectations for sex on the wedding night? First, consider the time of the wedding. A couple that gets married at 6:00 pm. will not get done greeting people at the reception until 10 pm at night, or perhaps later. Given that factor, how much energy do you think either bride or groom will have left for enjoyable sex on the wedding night? It won't do anything wonderful for the post nuptial intimacy. On the other hand, a couple that gets married a say, 1:00 in the afternoon will be done by about 5:00 p.m. There is still time left in their day to get on the road, to a hotel, and settled in. The time of relaxation will help both husband and wife time to talk through and overcome the jitters that go along with sex on the wedding night.
Another factor that would impact sex on the wedding night is travel time. If you are across the country on your honeymoon, there is an extensive amount of travel time. Well, what else might you do with that time? How about that sex on the wedding night? It would be wise for couples to limit the traveling that gets done immediately after the ceremony. The less time there is for travel, the more time that can be devoted to intimacy.
Good wedding planning includes the planning for sex on the wedding night. It should be as relaxed and enjoyable as possible for both bride and groom. He has the initiative. She has the lingerie. If they both take communication and planning seriously, then sex on the wedding night will be a memory for them to cherish instead of stress they have to overcome.
You would think that once you get done with the ceremony, all the stress would evaporate. For the most part, it may be true in regard to months worth of plans coming to a successful and wonderful conclusion. Yet it is often replaces with another form of stress that sets in after the ceremony. This is the stress on sex on the wedding night.
You might wonder why would sex on the wedding night be so stressful. The answer can be summed up in one word: expectations. Both bride and groom have expectations of what intimacy with the other will be like and sex on the wedding night is supposed to be the fulfillment of those expectations. Yet that fulfillment isn't always what it is cracked up to be.
What the groom is looking for in terms of sex on the wedding night and what the bride is looking when it comes to sex on the wedding night are often two different things. So how do the bride and groom reconcile their individual expectations so that the expectations are fair and pleasurable for both of them? The answer lies in setting those expectations rather than letting expectations set you up for stress.
What factors should be considered when setting expectations for sex on the wedding night? First, consider the time of the wedding. A couple that gets married at 6:00 pm. will not get done greeting people at the reception until 10 pm at night, or perhaps later. Given that factor, how much energy do you think either bride or groom will have left for enjoyable sex on the wedding night? It won't do anything wonderful for the post nuptial intimacy. On the other hand, a couple that gets married a say, 1:00 in the afternoon will be done by about 5:00 p.m. There is still time left in their day to get on the road, to a hotel, and settled in. The time of relaxation will help both husband and wife time to talk through and overcome the jitters that go along with sex on the wedding night.
Another factor that would impact sex on the wedding night is travel time. If you are across the country on your honeymoon, there is an extensive amount of travel time. Well, what else might you do with that time? How about that sex on the wedding night? It would be wise for couples to limit the traveling that gets done immediately after the ceremony. The less time there is for travel, the more time that can be devoted to intimacy.
Good wedding planning includes the planning for sex on the wedding night. It should be as relaxed and enjoyable as possible for both bride and groom. He has the initiative. She has the lingerie. If they both take communication and planning seriously, then sex on the wedding night will be a memory for them to cherish instead of stress they have to overcome.
Chris & Michelle Grimbilas have been married 25 years and are the parents of five great kids. Among their passions is travel, starting with their honeymoon. When they travel without their kids, they take the time to relive the fun and intimacy of their honeymoon in action.
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