It's sure to happen. Sometimes you can't do anything to help it. There is bound to be a few spats when two separate people come together. But it's perfectly normal. It can be hard to get over a fight in a long distance relationship, so I've laid out a few guidelines below to help you through the situation.
During The Argument
Think About What You Say Before You Say It
Often when people get into a heavy fight they completely lose control and they occasionally say stuff to one another that they wouldn't even dream of saying in a regular conversation. We realize you might be angry. And sometimes it may be their fault entirely. But remember to pick your words carefully. Be sure to take some long deep breaths and think it over before saying anything. This can help to guard your lovers feelings and is sure to speed up the making-up process.
Don't Chat Too Much Until You Are Both Calm
It isn't going to do any good talking to your partner until you have calmed down. The best idea is to stop all conversations until your feelings are settled and you are ready to make up with each other. No Skype. No text messages. No phone calls.
When Making Up
It's Not About Who's To Blame
It's not about whose fault it is. It's about what the issue is, and how to handle it. If you argue over something that they don't like about you, then it could be time to change the something they don't like. A number of people have an, "I won't change for anyone" attitude in a relationship. While research has shown us that the ones that do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship with each other.
Remember That You Are A Team
As you grow closer together, you have to learn to make decisions together. The decisions that will determine your future. You are both in the relationship because you love each other, and you both want to achieve the same positive end result. Just remember that you are each on the same side.
Send Them A Letter of Apology
A nice gesture after you have made up is to write your companion a letter explaining that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Let your partner know that you don't want to argue anymore, but make sure to let your feelings be known about the issues. You should send a gift along with it, or a picture that will help to remind them of a happy time you spent with each other.
During The Argument
Think About What You Say Before You Say It
Often when people get into a heavy fight they completely lose control and they occasionally say stuff to one another that they wouldn't even dream of saying in a regular conversation. We realize you might be angry. And sometimes it may be their fault entirely. But remember to pick your words carefully. Be sure to take some long deep breaths and think it over before saying anything. This can help to guard your lovers feelings and is sure to speed up the making-up process.
Don't Chat Too Much Until You Are Both Calm
It isn't going to do any good talking to your partner until you have calmed down. The best idea is to stop all conversations until your feelings are settled and you are ready to make up with each other. No Skype. No text messages. No phone calls.
When Making Up
It's Not About Who's To Blame
It's not about whose fault it is. It's about what the issue is, and how to handle it. If you argue over something that they don't like about you, then it could be time to change the something they don't like. A number of people have an, "I won't change for anyone" attitude in a relationship. While research has shown us that the ones that do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship with each other.
Remember That You Are A Team
As you grow closer together, you have to learn to make decisions together. The decisions that will determine your future. You are both in the relationship because you love each other, and you both want to achieve the same positive end result. Just remember that you are each on the same side.
Send Them A Letter of Apology
A nice gesture after you have made up is to write your companion a letter explaining that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Let your partner know that you don't want to argue anymore, but make sure to let your feelings be known about the issues. You should send a gift along with it, or a picture that will help to remind them of a happy time you spent with each other.
About the Author:
Discover the best online relationship guidance by joining other couples in a long distance relationship at The Long Distance Relationship Advice Group
No comments:
Post a Comment